You're engaged! Congratulations! This is the moment you’ve have been waiting for. This is going to be one of the most amazing times of your life as you and your fiancé start planning your future together. But, if we're being honest, it is also going to be pretty overwhelming. You might not know where to begin or how to get started, so we have compiled this list to get you started.
We've put together a list of the top 12 things you should start doing and thinking about when you get engaged. From necessary admin tasks to save time and the fun job of planning the look and style of your wedding, we will help you along the way.
1. Tell the Family
Possibly the most important step in the list. The last place your immediate family should hear about your engagement is on social media, so pop and see them, call them or even FaceTime them with your fantastic news. If your fiancé is a traditionalist chances are that your parents will be eagerly awaiting news of the engagement.
2. Post an engagement ring selfie
Now that you are engaged people are going to want to see your rock and you will be just as excited to share them with your friends. So take some time out with your fiancé to get some fun snaps ensuring that your left hand is front and centre to show off your sparkler and don’t forget to make it official on Facebook.
This can be a great time to get to know wedding photographers. Most photographers do free engagement shoots to see if you gel together and to gain your trust to shoot your big day.
3. Get Your Rock Insured
It might not be at the top of your to-do list, exciting or romantic but imagine now how you would feel if you lost your engagement ring. Things happen and in the event of damage or loss, your insurance company should cover the cost of a replacement or repairs. Jewellery is usually covered on your contents insurance but you may need to check your cover.
4. Set a Provisional Date
Do you have visions of a summer garden wedding or a winter wonderland? Key dates get booked well in advance at popular venues. You won’t be able to set an actual date until you have confirmed and booked your wedding venue, so start researching and making appointments to visit potential venues. Most venues hold wedding fairs on a regular basis, keep checking on social media for dates and make appointments with the resident wedding planner.
5. Create A Pinterest Board
Pinterest is a great place to find and share ideas from styling the venue to dressing the wedding party and that all-important wedding dress. Keep it to yourself just for reference or share it with your friends, family and fiancé to allow them to view and contribute to your big day. A Pinterest board or scrapbook will help you focus on the style of your wedding and help tie things together.
Get yourself some wedding magazines, stalk some wedding bloggers, watch back to back episodes of “Say yes to the dress” and start your wedding training. You may have dreamt of this day since you were 5 or you may not have given it a fleeting thought now it’s time to immerse yourself in everything wedding.
7. Plan Some “Us” Time
Whilst planning your wedding it is important to never forget the reason you are doing this and take time out to enjoy some time together as a couple. Go for a hike, a romantic meal or get away for the weekend but keep wedding planning off the table, take time to get to know each other.
8. Get a wedding Journal
Get a wedding planner or journal, these planners will help you with all the planning stages of your wedding, when to send invitations, when to start dress shopping and when to book your photographer. This will make planning a little easier and take some of the stress of planning your wedding off your shoulders.
9. Start Saving
Even a simple wedding costs money (more than you have probably imagined) so it is important to agree on a budget and allocate funds to the most important parts of your big day. This budget might be from savings or might be bankrolled by Mum & Dad, however, your wedding is going to be funded you will need to have an awkward conversation and agree on a budget.
10. Ask Parents to help with guest lists
Very important to your wedding planning especially if parents are contributing to your wedding, you may not have seen Auntie Betty for 10 years but mum might be keen on her attending the wedding. Ask them to help prioritise their wish list by breaking it into tiers—it'll help you if you need to make cuts later on.
11. Schedule Your Dress Appointment
This is one of the most exciting parts of planning a wedding and you should allow plenty of time for this. Most wedding dresses are made to order and can take 6-8 months to arrive and will almost defiantly require some form of alteration to fit perfectly. Ensure that you only take your most trusted advisors to your dress appointment and not too many, too many conflicting opinions can confuse you and take this from a dream to a nightmare scenario. Go shopping with an open mind and let the shop assistant guide you, don’t forget they see hundreds of brides and know what dresses will work for you.
12. Chill Out & Have Fun
Ok so no matter what happens above or what issues you may have on your wedding planning journey you need to remember that at the end of it all you will be married to the one you love. So don’t stress take some “me time” and find ways to relieve your the stress you may be feeling. Treat yourself to a spa day, take mum out for a cream tea, whatever you do remember this is a once-in-a-lifetime event and you are allowed to enjoy it along the way.